Giving up Control

How desperately we cling
to control, using manipulation,
intimidation, conditional love.
We set up rigid lives,
hoping to gain safety
in our lives gone mad.

Our insecurities and fears,
arrogance, lust for power,
manifest as a need to control
others and the minutiae of our lives.

How does one
give up being controlling,
yet not feel buffered by life?
First step is to realize
that all that we do to control
is a grand illusion.
We have no control in the lives of
others–nor should we!

Next, we must become humble;
most of us do not even know
what humility is.
It is not lack of
confidence, or self-worth.
Search until you
understand how to
be humble…
not act humble,

With humility, we become
malleable dough.
The Baker kneads us,
forms us into the
Bread of Life,
fragrant and nourishing.

When we put our lives
in the hands of our Creator,
He will reshape us
as He desires.
Our lives will become
beautifully transformed,
when we get out of the way!

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5 Responses to Giving up Control

  1. Sara says:

    I didn’t know Pat why I left this poem unopened.
    I know now, I needed to be at home, relaxed and here in OZ is Friday night….Weekend!
    So true… It took so long and so much suffering…Now I know about control…
    Thank you for writing about it so beautifully.


  2. John Archer says:

    Beautiful words and so true. Oh, if only there was more humility in this world.

    . . ./J


    • Pat Cegan says:

      ah….definitely a spiral lesson for me. It is hard to even understand what true humility is, much less see that we lack it at times. Thanks for your visit, John. hugs, pat


  3. Kim Nelson says:

    About a decade ago I began the painful journey towards understanding control. It took a long time. Learning that lesson, however, freed me to be loving, accepting, me.


    • Pat Cegan says:

      Painful journey it is. But one each of must take if we are to gain peace. Good for you, Kim, that you had the courage to learn about this. I am still working on it! hugs, pat


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